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Now, what is sadism? In my experience it is people who are
happy at the sufferings of others. It can also mean persons who enjoy the sufferings
of others. In my opinion, many companies are run in this way. Why? In the case
of Amazon, it seemed like everything was set up to catch employees who are
stealing. The metal detectors are to catch contraband leaving the warehouse as
there are no metal detectors for employees arriving to the warehouse. There is
no concern for employees bringing in guns or knives to harm others. There ARE
metal detectors for employees leaving though. I call this sadistic. Even if the
employee does not mentally register that they are being treated as a thief on a
subconscious level they know.
Every time they go to work in that dusty, dank, microbe
filled Petri dish they are agreeing with Jeff Bezos that they can’t be trusted
and am submitting to being criminalized for a minimal wage general labor job.
It takes a toll on your spirit while the actual job attacks your physical body
in every way possible. This is sadism on every level and I believe those persons
monitoring those warehouses (I am told it is Jeff himself.) smile with an evil
gleam in their eye knowing they are destroying people on cellular and spiritual
levels. Why do they keep doing it? They keep doing it knowing the damage they
are causing because it brings them pleasure. For years to come Amazon workers
will suffer for every second they toiled for Jeff Bezos. Meanwhile, the originators
of this earthbound Hell sleep like babies and blast off beyond earth’s stratosphere
thanking their employees without an ounce of remorse. This is sadism. This is
sadistic.
According to the dictionary; sadism is the tendency to derive pleasure from inflicting pain, suffering, or humiliation on others.
What can I tell you? I feel like an expert on the subject. Here’s why:
- 1. I was born in Texas
- 2. I was educated in Houston Independent School District
- 3. I was raised as a Jehovah’s Witness
- 4. I was abandoned by my mother and all of my family
- 5. I am intelligent and enjoy being happy
Ah yes, I was and am cocaine and heroine to the sadists of north
America. I have sat and watched the “back and forth” of sadist against sadist. It’s lit a dance. They take turns “dipping” each other for eons. Then, it happens; one of the sadists “grows out of it” they have matured and understands that life is more than suffering. They mature and see that life is not meant to be tit for tat compounding suffering upon suffering then revenge to cause more suffering. It is a wonder to witness. It is the worm becoming a beautiful butterfly. It is the crawling thing becoming a creature who flies.
Alas, sometimes the worm simply becomes a fly who is caught
in the spider’s web then a bird eats the spider. It is the long way to becoming
a part of a higher life form, yet it works too. In our world, the sadist has become
accustomed to enjoying the sufferings of others. I believe the sadist is the
last creature in this world to incarnate. Why?
The sadist will never change because its pleasure is the
pain of others. For example, take the cancer, it does not die until the life
form it derives life from dies. So it is with the sadist. It won’t go on to its
next incarnation until everyone else has and there is no one left for it to
torture. It is what it is.
Cancer can be cured theoretically if the person wants to live moreso than the cancer.
Before treatment, it is crucial to find out the source of the sadistic personality. People with sadism generally have a desire for power and control. The main reasons for this desire include:
- Poverty
- Injustice
- Domestic or child abuse
- Personal failures
Positive channeling of power can help the patient to get rid of the sadistic desires.
Most cases of sadistic behavior require counseling and therapy to modify a person’s behavior. To completely cure sadistic personality, patients must undergo long-term treatment. The patient’s compliance with the treatment is of utmost importance as non-cooperation to the therapy and counseling can hinder its success.
Another way to cure sadism is to show them that their victims aren’t really suffering from their actions.
Everyone has emotionally hurt someone in one way or the other. These are mostly:
- Out of ignorance
- In the heat of an argument
- When felt threatened
However, sadism differs from the above behavior. Some of the main components of sadism include:
- Intention to harm
- Deriving pleasure when inflicting pain on others
- A lack of regret
- Failure to take responsibility
Some of the typical characteristics that a person with a sadistic personality has are:
- They enjoy seeing people hurt.
- They enjoy inflicting pain on others.
- They cherish the idea of others being in pain.
- They think it is all right to cause others pain.
- They fantasize about hurting others.
- They like to humiliate others to keep them in line.
- They may ask their partners to submit to various forms of sexual acts, such as bondage, gagging, slapping, hair pulling, choking.
Still at the end of the day, the one who suffers the most is the sadist themselves. C’est la vie! No?
While most people try to avoid hurting others — and will feel guilty, remorseful, and distressed if they do hurt someone intentionally or unintentionally — an everyday sadist enjoys being cruel and may find it exciting.
“We have probably all encountered people in our daily lives who — at least seem to — enjoy hurting others,” said lead researcher Erin Buckels, MA, who conducted this work as part of her master’s thesis in Social-Personality Psychology at the University of British Columbia. She is now a doctoral student at the University of Manitoba in Winnipeg.
“Everyday sadists lack empathy, and they possess an internal motivation to hurt others. However, they are unlikely to act in a way that would be criminal or dangerous — at least in most contexts, where such behavior is met with social disapproval or punishment,” Buckels said.
Everyday sadists may be cousins to classic sociopaths in their lack of empathy, but they are not considered a danger to society in the same way. “It is only in situations where cruelty is encouraged or socially acceptable that dangerous behavior might enter the equation,” said Buckels. “Both sadistic personality and situational pressures are necessary for sadism to manifest with everyday people. War is one example of this confluence — we have all seen the images of the Abu Ghraib prisoner abuse. All forms of cruel behavior have the potential to be motivated by sadistic pleasure, including bullying and abuse by others. If it were done purely for pleasure, then it would be sadism.”
If You Like to Hurt Bugs, You May Be a Sadist
It’s one thing to take an empty mayonnaise jar to catch fireflies when you are a kid and accidentally forget to poke holes in it, causing the fireflies to die; or to dispose of unhealthy bugs like roaches or insects that can harm you. It’s another thing to enjoy harming bugs (or animals). Buckels used a bug-crushing exercise to draw the everyday sadists out in a controlled laboratory environment. For the experiment, she defined sadists in two ways: Their cruel behavior and felt pleasure in the lab, and personality characteristics consistent with sadism. A group of 71 participants were asked to fill out a sadism personality questionnaire and also given a list of four tasks they could choose from:
- Killing bugs
- Helping the experimenter kill bugs
- Cleaning dirty toilets
- Enduring pain from ice water
A bug-crunching machine fashioned out of a coffee grinder made distinct crunching sounds. Placed close to this machine were cups containing live pill bugs that were labeled with names like Muffin, Ike, and Tootsie. Those who selected bug-crushing were told to put the bugs into the machine and grind them up. Unbeknownst to them, there was a barrier that prevented the bugs from being dropped into the grinder. No bugs were killed for this experiment, but it brought the sadists out of the closet. Of 71 participants, nearly 28 percent chose to kill bugs.
How is it possible that one human being can perpetrate such pain and suffering on other human beings as happened in Cleveland with the three women who were kidnapped as teenagers and held in captivity for ten years? Not only were they held captive but were beaten, raped and dehumanized in every way possible. Why would someone do such a terrible thing? For most of us it is difficult to grasp, explain or understand how such a thing can happen. Unhappily, it happens all too often. The Holocaust is one example of mankind dehumanizing others. Similar types of things have happened in prisoner of war camps where prisoners are beaten and killed even after they are no longer in combat. Then, too, there have been many and recent examples of others being kidnapped and held captive for many years. What makes this possible? One theory is that that these people have a Sadistic Personality Disorder for which there is no known cause and for which there is no listing in the DSM four or five.
However, one explanation is that the perpetrators of these horrors were harshly and constantly emotionally, physically and sexually abused during childhood. Unfavorable experiences during childhood or in early stages of sexual development are believed to be one of the major contributing factors in the development of a sadistic personality. It has also been observed that sadism or a sadistic personality can also get developed in an individual through learning. For instance, continually being exposed to situations in which sexual enjoyment or of excitement with the anguish of others can cause sadism or sadomasochism. In other words, the suffering of others gives pleasure and observing that suffering feels good.
What is a personality disorder?
According to the Mayo Clinic, “a personality disorder is a type of mental illness in which you have trouble perceiving and relating to situations and to people — including yourself. There are many specific types of personality disorders. In general, having a personality disorder means you have a rigid and unhealthy pattern of thinking and behaving no matter what the situation. This leads to significant problems and limitations in relationships, social encounters, work and school.”
What is sadism?
According to Wikipedia, Sadism involves gaining pleasure from seeing others undergo pain or discomfort. It’s the way in which individuals not only display, but also take enjoyment in committing sadistic acts. Individuals possessing sadistic personality display recurrent cruel behavior and aggression. Sadism can also include the use of emotional cruelty, purposefully manipulating others through the use of fear, and a preoccupation with violence.
Sexual Sadism:
The essential feature of sexual sadism is a feeling of sexual excitement resulting from administering pain, suffering, or humiliation to another person. The pain, suffering, or humiliation inflicted on the other is real; it is not imagined and may be either physical or psychological in nature. A person with a diagnosis of sexual sadism is sometimes called a sadist. The name of the disorder is derived from the proper name of the Marquis de Sade (1740-1814), a French aristocrat who became notorious for writing novels around the theme of inflicting pain as a source of sexual pleasure.
All of this information helps provide an explanation for why accused kidnapper and rapist, Ariel Castro committed those awful and sadistic acts. In fact, he did not do these things out of “thin air” but had a history of abuse. For example:
Castro had an order of protection filed against him by his common law wife for brutalizing her and kidnapping their children on several occasions in order to keep them from their mother. She reported to police that Castro had broken her nose(twice), her ribs, given her lacerations, knocked out her tooth, caused her to form a blood clot on her brain, dislocated her shoulder, (twice, one on each side,) and threatened to kill her and their daughters. This happened 3 to 4 times in the past year.
Besides having a sadistic personality disorder, it is clear that this man is psychopathic. In other words, he experiences no guilt or remorse for the people he has brutalized. That is how he was able to imprison them for ten long years. The psychopath has no empathy or sympathy for others. How else does one inflict such pain and suffering on others. In addition, the captivity of these three women provided him with the opportunity to take full sexual control over them. He got them pregnant and beat and starved them to make them abort. In one case, a pregnancy was allowed to go full term. He exerted full control over them by keeping them in a dark world where they were kept bound and chained.
Most human beings are guided by a sense of morality, conscience, empathy and warmth towards others. That is why someone like Castro is so incomprehensible. Yet, he is not alone in committing these types of heinous acts. By the way, it is said that men constitute 90% of these cases.
Your comments and questions are encouraged.
Allan N. Schwartz, PhD
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